Can Mediation Resolve An Adversarial Divorce?
Many people assume that divorce mediation can only work if your relationship is amicable. This is a myth about resolving the terms of a divorce. Litigation can actually raise the temperature of a divorce – and make it even more adversarial rather than less. Litigation takes many months longer than mediation and that time generally only fuels more emotion, pain and frustration. So, whether your divorce is adversarial or amicable, mediation can work for your situation. Even if your divorce is adversarial or complex, here are some of the reasons to consider mediation to settle the terms of your divorce:
It is estimated that between 70-85% of cases that go through mediation are settled. When you stop and think for a second, that is pretty remarkable, in large part because each and every one of those cases are trying to settle a dispute. The two parties often do not agree about how the dispute should be settled, so they need professional assistance to sort this out. When it comes to divorce, the disagreements between the two parties are compounded by the emotion, sadness and pain of realizing that your marriage is over. Mediation is considered so effective that the Minnesota court system is now recommending that all divorce cases go through mediation before going through the courts. If you are coming to terms with the idea of a divorce
Did you know that January is the most common month for divorce? In fact, it is sometimes known as Divorce month. There may be many reasons for this – it is just after the holidays; couples may decide that they need a fresh start for the new year and that it is to let go of things that are no longer healthy. If you are finding yourself looking ahead to the new year with divorce on the horizon, we can help. Johnson Mediation specializes in divorce support for couples in Minnesota. We offer a wide variety of services to help you navigate the divorce process with less stress and more control over the outcome.
Once you have made the decision to divorce, many couples think that the process cannot move fast enough. In the state of Minnesota, a divorce can take as few as 4-8 weeks. Minnesota is a “no-fault” state so you will be granted a divorce as long as one of the parties request one. A divorce is granted without any consideration of wrongdoing, but that can factor in when determining the financial settlement. Either you or your spouse is required to have lived in the state for 6 months before your divorce can be granted in Minnesota. Divorce mediation allows you to complete the entire divorce process in a shorter amount of time, without waiting on the schedule of lawyers or the court
Not that long ago, when we simplified things into male and female ways of understanding and interacting with the world, conventional wisdom said that it was a male trait to contribute verbally and non-verbally to conversations to solve problems, and that it was a female trait to offer reassurances that they were listening and trying to understand. It is an overly simplistic description of human interaction for sure, and we know now that the male-female dichotomy is not complete. However, there is value in the idea that in every human interaction, there is a desire to be understood. One of the most important goals
In addition to providing our support and guidance to divorcing couples regarding Minnesota’s divorce laws, Johnson Mediation has earned a reputation for being a divorce mediation provider that also prioritizes the well-being of its clients. We care about the people we serve, and we do our best to help them understand the possibilities that can grow out of the divorce process. Above all else, we serve our clients with honesty and respect. This approach gives the individuals we work with a more accurate understanding of the divorce process and what life will feel like after divorce. Prioritizing honesty and combining it with our knowledge of the laws governing divorce in Minnesota, allows a divorcing couple to move on to the next chapter in their lives and minimize the surprises that can be painfully disruptive and jolting.
