Individual Divorce Coach
Feeling seen, heard and understood is important and everyone longs for this type of compassion. When going through a divorce, it can be one of the most challenging times in your life, and when you are working through the ups and downs, oftentimes you want to have your own individual support. Marital separation and divorce can be very stressful and often presents a family with a major developmental crises. It can cause you to feel overwhelmed, scared, confused and generally out of sorts. The family is often faced with a variety of changes, that can seem daunting.
Going through a divorce is never easy. Even when your relationship has hit the fan, and it isn’t good for you or your ex-partner, a divorce can be extremely painful. Separation represents loss, and not just of your partnership but maybe dreams you had planned together and commitments that you shared. Most new relationships start out on a high note, sometimes called the “Honeymoon Stage” and although a relationship can no longer be good we experience an overwhelming amount of disappointment, stress, and grief.
When you are going through a divorce, oftentimes child custody is the hardest thing to sort out. Parenting alone is already tricky and has its own unique challenges, and it is multitudes more challenging trying to co parent when you live in separate places and have your own unique schedule. When parents are contesting the custody of their children they are required to attend parenting classes.
Parenting is already hard enough. Add a divorce to the mix, and your job as a parent gets infinitely more difficult. For parents who have separated, you’re not only dealing with raising your child, you’re trying to figure out how to raise your child the way you want to. In any relationship, parents have different ideas about how to best raise a child, including what rules to set, how to discipline children, what hours children should keep, what activities children should participate in… the list goes on. If you and your former spouse are having a difficult time communicating, compromising, or overall doing what’s best for your child, you may need the help of a parenting consultant. At Johnson Mediation, our Chanhassen, MN parenting consultants are here to help make sure your divorce does not stop your child from flourishing.
: A divorce mediator is considered a neutral and doesn’t work for either party, but rather helps guides couples to make decisions and keep communication open. That means the mediator does not give advice to either party, but rather remains neutral. What the mediator does rather, is assist the divorcing couple in finding ideas that usually leads to agreements. That open communication of information frees both spouses to negotiate with each other in confidence.
Many divorcing couples are concerned that mediation may not work. They are fearful that their situation may be too difficult or they may not know a lot about mediation. Although some couples are able to be fairly respectful of one another and work together in divorce mediation, this does not mean you should compare yourself to them. More than most, divorces are not this smooth. Due to things that have happened in the past, complex emotions arise and make it extremely difficult to negotiate with one another. If you are experiencing the troubles of not being able to negotiate it will be very beneficial for the two of you to go to a mediator in order to delegate.
