Going through a divorce is never easy. Even when your relationship has hit the fan, and it isn’t good for you or your ex-partner, a divorce can be extremely painful. Separation represents loss, and not just of your partnership but maybe dreams you had planned together and commitments that you shared. Most new relationships start out on a high note, sometimes called the “Honeymoon Stage” and although a relationship can no longer be good we experience an overwhelming amount of disappointment, stress, and grief.
Many times divorce will sore you into new territory that can be extremely uncomfortable and difficult. Many times when you get a divorce it means not only an end to that relationship, but also disrupts your routines and responsibilities. Most people end up moving, losing friends and extended family. Many of these things are how people identify themselves, and when you experience a divorce it comes with a lot more than just the end of a relationship. Most people feel insecure and also confused about what they are going to do, how to spend their time and how to rebuild your life without that person in it. Although your relationship may be unhealthy, some people choose to stay in them because they would rather experience that feeling then have to rebuild themselves.
This pain, disruption, and uncertainty means that recovering from a divorce can be difficult and take time. However, although these things can be hard, it is important to remind yourself that you can and you will get through these hard times and build a life for yourself that you will be happy with.
Divorce Grief Recovery
Johnson Mediation understands that a divorce is an extremely stressful time and is also life changing. When you’re going through the emotional wringer and dealing with major life changes, it’s more important than ever to take care of yourself. The strain and upset of a major breakup can leave you psychologically and physically vulnerable.
When you are making big changes in your life it is important to live a balanced lifestyle. Get plenty of rest, minimize other sources of stress in your life, and reduce your workload if possible. Learning to take care of yourself can be one of the most valuable lessons you learn following a divorce, and can help set you up for additional challenging times in your life. As you feel the emotions of your loss and begin learning from your experience, you can resolve to take better care of yourself and make positive choices going forward.