Surviving The Holidays During A Divorce
Divorce can be difficult no matter what time of year, but if you have recently separated or are in the process of finalizing your divorce, it can be even more stressful and emotionally draining for everyone involved. The holidays conjure up feelings of love, family and gathering together, and divorce complicates that narrative. Letting go of the idea of a perfect holiday is the first thing that you can do to cope. Remember to put your children first and foremost. Here are some other tips for surviving the holiday season during a divorce:
Have you decided to try mediation to settle the terms of your divorce, instead of heading through the court system? This is a very wise decision and one that is even endorsed by the Minnesota courts. The court system simply cannot accommodate all divorce cases and many of these cases can be resolved without hiring lawyers and waiting on courtroom and judge availability. So, how do you find a mediator near you that is experienced, competent, and knowledgeable about Minnesota law and is compassionate, kind and easy to connect with?
As we have faced the COVID-19 pandemic over the last 15-18 months, many things have successfully moved online, some more easily and successfully than others. You may now be able to see your health care provider virtually, without setting foot into their office. Your children may have attended school virtually and, for many families, this may have proved extremely successful or extremely challenging. We can also order groceries online and pick them up without going into the store and complete banking transactions with the touch of a button. Virtual transactions and services are likely here to stay
Was the main driver in your decision to divorce related to intense conflict, anger, and fighting in your marriage? Did you feel like you and your partner could not agree on anything and fought about even the smallest issues? If you have decided to divorce after high levels of conflict in your marriage, you may assume that your only option is to proceed through the court system. However, litigation can actually make the conflict even worse. The foundation of litigation is winning or losing. You end up fighting hard and battling over issues like dividing property, child custody and spousal support.
Fortunately, divorce is something that some people never have to go through and for those that do, you are likely to only go through it once in your life. It is a complicated process that can feel overwhelming and stressful. Each person brings emotional and financial history to the table and there is a lot of misinformation about the process out there that can complicate the picture. Understanding the process can be a helpful step for preparing and being ready for what is next. Here are three of the most common divorce myths and the truth behind them.
For decades, if not longer, married couples have found ways to end their marriages. Not long ago, divorcing one’s spouse required a great deal of effort, time, and energy, and often proved to be cost prohibitive. There were many reasons it was so difficult. The church strongly discouraged the practice and gave their blessing only in rare circumstances. Our society has historically frowned on divorce, believing that the vows taken should be eternal, even when there are extenuating circumstances, which could include relationship violence, infidelity, and other forms of deception. As the perception of divorce has changed over time
