Prioritizing Your Kids During Divorce
When you think about your family and your life, most adults will say that their children are the most important thing in your entire world. If you are under any type of stress–work, financial or interpersonal, you work hard to protect your kids from the pain. As you might expect, couples who are struggling in their marriage and contemplating divorce, tend to worry most about the impact on their children. Johnson Mediation can help you navigate divorce while prioritizing the mental health and wellbeing of your kids. Choosing divorce mediation instead of litigation
Even when we know that it is in our best interest to end our marriage, and maybe even especially when our marriage ends on good terms with our spouse, life after divorce can be much more difficult than we expect. Johnson Mediation understands the complex emotions and practical matters that occur in so many people following their divorce, and as a result, we offer our expertise in the form of post-divorce support.
The divorce process is different depending on the state where you live. Minnesota has what is known as a “no-fault divorce law”, which means that the court does not take into consideration the reasons why you are divorcing your spouse. You do not need your spouse’s consent to file for divorce and the courts do not consider the reason you are divorce when deciding whether to grant the divorce. In order to get a divorce in our state, you simply have to have lived in the state for 180 days before the divorce proceedings begin and show that there is no hope for reconciliation. Another thing to remember
Divorce is hard in so many ways. Navigating the process while you are emotionally raw can make it feel overwhelming and simply impossible. If you are beginning the process, you may be wondering how to prepare yourself and your family to handle what is coming. Below are what many report as the five hardest parts of a divorce.
When you get a divorce, you try to make a plan (divorce agreement) that covers any and all potential issues that could come up down the road. However, it is impossible to predict the future, especially with kids. Your children’s needs change over time and there is no way to know what your kids will need (or want) years after your divorce is final. Covid-19 pandemic is a perfect example. Post-divorce mediation makes the process of changing your custody arrangement simple and low stress. Johnson Mediation can help you determine both what changes to make and how to restructure your custody agreement
A divorce does not just impact the two adults in a relationship. If you have children, they feel the impact as well. Helping your children adjust to the idea of the divorce and then the major life changes that follow is a huge part of the transition process for many couples. Your children know you and your spouse well, so trying to hide things and tell them things that are simply not true are going to make them feel unsure and vulnerable. Be honest about what is happening, what it means for them and that you will love them the same no matter what.
