Fortunately, divorce is something that some people never have to go through and for those that do, you are likely to only go through it once in your life. It is a complicated process that can feel overwhelming and stressful. Each person brings emotional and financial history to the table and there is a lot of misinformation about the process out there that can complicate the picture. Understanding the process can be a helpful step for preparing and being ready for what is next. Here are three of the most common divorce myths and the truth behind them.
1. Divorce cases most often go to trial: Our society has contributed to this myth. If you watch a TV show or movie that features a divorce, you will likely see this play out in a courtroom. The reality is actually very different. Many divorces never see the inside of a courtroom, and this can be a huge benefit to you and your family. Divorce can be settled by using mediation or litigation to come to decisions about issues like division of property, child custody and spousal support. It is true that your divorce agreement must be filed in court, but in many cases, states are now encouraging couples to try mediation before engaging in litigation. Mediation is highly effective, reduces conflict, saves money, is faster and can put you in a much more healthy and positive position for the future.
2. You have to hire a divorce lawyer to help you with the process: Just like the divorce process does not have to be battled out in court, you also do not have to hire a divorce lawyer to represent you during the process. You certainly have the right to — however, this is not mandatory. For example, if you use mediation to settle the terms of your divorce, you and your ex can work directly with the mediator to make decisions and develop your divorce agreement. Divorce lawyers can certainly be helpful, but they cost a lot of money and can sometimes have busy schedules that mean that the process can be extended unnecessarily.
3. Moms usually get primary custody of the kids: Divorce law has evolved over the years to more fairly and equitably handle custody. Custody and visitation is based on what is best for the kids in the family, and in many cases, this is joint custody. In addition, if you use mediation to settle custody, you can create the best custody plan for your unique set of circumstances.
Minnesota Divorce Mediation
Johnson Mediation specializes in divorce mediation services for families in Minnesota. We can help you navigate the process, minimizing the conflict and financial burden and allowing you to look forward to your future, rather than the pain of your psat. For more information about our services, call us at (952) 401-7599.