If you have made the important but difficult decision to divorce and have decided to pursue mediation to settle the terms, you may be left wondering how to choose the best mediator for your situation. All divorces are different, and you and your soon to be ex-spouse have to make some VERY important decisions. A couple of examples would include, how to fairly separate your joint assets and property, developing a parenting plan that puts your children first and determining whether child or spousal support is needed. Here are some things to look for when you are making the important choice of who to mediate your divorce:
- Experience: A strong mediator will have experience in his profession which ensures that he can deal with people in all situations from any background. While there is exceptional training available for mediators, their experience working with others is priceless. You can ask mediators for the number of years of experience they have and for examples of cases that they have handled similar to yours.
- Objectivity: Perhaps the most important qualification for a mediator is impartiality. This is the foundation of the mediation process. Your mediator is not in a position to sway you or your partner to a decision, but to facilitate a discussion that empowers you to reach that decision.
- Written samples: If you are interested in having your mediator write up a contract or agreement, it is wise to ask for a written sample of their work to ensure that it is clear, organized and impartial.
- References: Just like any new service provider you hire, consider checking references. Ask friends, loved ones, and co-workers for recommendations for a mediator and when you are considering a specific mediator, ask around and look online for “reviews” or salient information that can help you make your decision.
- Interview: Settling the terms of your divorce is critical to your ability to move forward after your divorce. Before you decide on a mediator to partner with, you should interview them. You want to look for qualities like impartiality and strong communication skills and the ability to listen. During an interview, you should really think about whether you felt that the mediator understood what you were saying, this is a great indicator of a successful mediation relationship.
Experienced Divorce Mediator in MN
Johnson Mediation specializes in comprehensive divorce mediation for couples in Minnesota who have decided to divorce. Our team can help you navigate all aspects of a divorce including how to fairly separate your joint assets and property, developing a parenting plan that puts your children first and determining whether child or spousal support is needed. Our team is happy to meet with you as you make your decision about a mediator and answer any questions that you have about the process. For more information, call Johnson Mediation at 952-401-7599.