Divorce can be an incredibly stressful experience for all involved, including your children. Most couples who decide to divorce care very deeply about minimizing the impact of their decision on the children, but it can still be difficult to achieve. As parents get emotional they say and or do things that later on the regret. Johnson Mediation can offer your family important support and guidance during and after divorce to help you navigate these issues with your children. Here are some of the most common effects of divorce on children and how to handle them:
1. Emotional impact: Divorce can be scary, confusing and even angry depending on the age. Some kids blame themselves for divorce, while others blame one parent or the other. Other kids are upset because divorce causes so much intense change for all. Talking honestly with your children about the divorce and letting them make some decisions can go a long way to helping them cope with the change.
2. Loss of daily contact with both parents: It can be difficult for children of all ages to adjust to not seeing both parents each and every day. Explaining the new schedule and offering them an option for input can be helpful. You should also be willing to be flexible when your child expresses preferences in the future about potential changes to the schedule. As your children age, their needs may change.
3. Ongoing adjustments: As you move on with your life after divorce, it is possible that you or your ex will decide to remarry. Ongoing adjustments will be necessary for your kids for the rest of your life and it is helpful if you can remember this and be supportive when they have questions or concerns.
4. Logistical changes: Moving from a childhood home and changing schools can be major stressors for a child and can often leave a lasting impact. Do what you can to keep some aspects of normal life when it is possible.
5. Behavior issues and academic performance: Many children act out behaviorally or have trouble managing academic expectations during and after divorce. This is normal and you may want to consider developing a support system for your child (including teachers, counselors, spiritual leaders, sports coaches, etc.).
Benefits of Mediation for Your Children in Minnesota
Johnson Mediation can help you and your divorcing spouse make decisions that always put your children first. We specialize in mediation services, which can help you settle the terms of your divorce and make adjustments after your divorce is final. For more information about our divorce and parenting support services, call us at 952-401-7599.