Divorce is known to be one of the most stressful of all life events. As a result, when you ask about people’s experience, you will very often hear horror stories from friends, neighbors and co-workers about the process, the conflict and potential unfair outcomes. If you are considering a divorce, it is important that you keep in mind that every divorce is different and as much as people want to help, you have a lot of control over how your divorce moves forward. Here are a few common myths about divorce that you can keep in mind as you weigh this possibility for your family:
1. Mediation will not work for my case: The Minnesota courts recommend that all couples try an alternative dispute resolution technique like mediation before proceeding through the court system. The court schedule is very backed up and it can take months to align the schedules of lawyers and the judge. Mediation allows you to settle the terms of your divorce more quickly and without the same financial burden as litigation. In addition, mediated divorces tend to be much more successful in the long term than court battles. You are able to influence the mediation process and make decisions together that best meets the needs of your family.
2. Divorces are always nasty: This myth stems from long standing views on divorce – that they are always bitter with high conflict and a win/lose dynamic. Divorce is never easy on a family, but it does not have to turn nasty. Most couples can resolve the issues in their divorce with the help of a divorce mediator.
3. The individual who initiated the divorce will have the advantage: Minnesota is a “no-fault” state, so there is absolutely no advantage for the person who initiated the divorce.
4. In Minnesota, we need to legally separate before we divorce: Legal separation is not required in the state of Minnesota before you can move forward with divorce. In fact, legal separation is actually an entirely separate process than divorce and is only rarely used (as an alternative to divorce).
Minnesota Divorce Mediation Services
Johnson Mediation can help guide you and your family through the divorce process with less emotional and financial stress. Our staff has extensive knowledge and experience with Minnesota law and can answer your questions and help you determine what is the best path for you. For more information about our divorce mediation services, give us a call at 952-401-7599.